This, I think, is the crux of it:
bjt wrote:
But now I think they need to go on a retreat with someone like Doug Sohn who can teach them how to handle crowds whilst staying in their small space and why being warm and funny and engaged has its merits.
Why? (My emphasis)
It'd be nice if Hot Doug's were open late or if he opened more locations to alleviate the crowds a bit. It'd be nice if it were easier to get a reservation at Schwa or if Carlson even just cleared out the VM box once in a while. It'd be nice if I didn't have to plan my order ahead of time and call in advance to get a pizza at Burt's. And I'm told by some in this thread that it'd be nice if the folks who run Great Lake were a little warmer and fuzzier. But in all four cases, the folks involved have made it pretty clear that they have no intention of changing to meet their customers' desires. And why should they? So they can get more business? Seems like they have plenty. So they can make more money? Doesn't seem like they want more than they're earning. All four appear to be as successful as they want to be. We're not talking about flagging businesses that needs some kind of a boost or owners who are looking for ways to increase their revenue.
So why do they need to change?
The reason some people find these examples so frustrating -- offensive, even -- is that they challenge the age old notion that restaurants exist solely to please their customers. For most restaurants, this approach is simply a matter of survival. You make sure that every person who walks through that door is thrilled with every aspect of the experience or you go out of business. But these are restaurateurs who turn out such great food that they can serve it on
their terms. Running a restaurant can be about what
they want, and how
they want to live their lives. I might prefer if they did something differently, but if they're happy with what they're doing, how can I say they
need to or they
should? They don't owe me anything. Nobody's forcing me through their front doors. They're under no obligation to provide me with my ideal restaurant experience.
Seems to me that if they were to become the Doug and Dora Sohn of the Chicago pizza scene, they'd suddenly become a much better restaurant in many people's eyes... and more popular... and more busy... which is precisely what they
don't appear to want. It seems to me, bjt, that you're suggesting they do something that works
against their interests.