OK, since there seems to have been a bit of speculation about my situation (and yes, I am willing to take responsibility for my part in it), here are some of my mid-wait observations:
1. Noise level - very high.
2. Kitchen corridor and bar service area located very close together in this large place -- jammed with servers.
3. Long treks for servers to front tables located on upper level (My table along corridor.)
4. Near absence of bus persons (I saw one bus person during dinner--and I was looking)
5. Predominance of large groups who seemed to be ordering from the "martini menu."
(Bias alert: yes, I disapprove of fruity martinis.)
6. Waiter at group of tables to my right-his attention rivetted on tiny details of service, e.g. the candle on the next table being extinguished. (I felt sorry for the guy.)
7. No one seated to my left until 'regulars" arrived and were greeted and chatted up by the owner almost instantly.
bibi rose wrote: I even drink solo at bars while traveling, rather than sit in my hotel room. People's conclusions about that are their problem, not mine.
I'm with you on that one, bibirose. I generally don't choose the bar in a restaurant because it's less comfortable than a table and I feel rushed. I don't care what anyone thinks about my sitting in a bar--at this point in my life, I'd frankly question their reality testing if they thought I was looking for quick action, paid or not. In this case, I wanted oysters, and the bar was crowded--3 deep. Shellfish service is pretty complicated for a busy bar.
However, thinking about the conventions of yesteryear-- I was recently told on a visit to Providence RI's Federal Hill that the distinguished restaurateur Frank Marzilli made a practice of refusing service to women who sought to dine alone in his lovely pink restaurant (who did he think his target market was?). This, as late as the 1980's. Me, I'd just whip out my Virginia Slims and tell him, "I've come a long way, baby - to taste your braciole. I don't intend to go away hungry."
bibrose wrote:(More often, I haven't waited for an explanation but have walked out, sometimes to a "WTF?" look from whoever is manning the door. Whatever-- I don't usually have a good experience after a start like that, so increasingly, I bail.)
Good call. If I had not driven a considerable distance specifically to eat at this restaurant, I would have left. I was also curious at this point as to whether they would pull it together or not. I hate to dismiss a restaurant without eating the food! But, in fact, the glass of Sancerre seemed as if it had been poured from a bottle opened yesterday, the oysters included two that should have been discarded due to size, and the bread basket was stingy. The waitress had clearly been instructed to push the bottled water and the flatbreads (an annoying trend).
Lest you all think that I am either a saint or a doormat, I do have my limits. When the farro and zucchini side suggested by the waitress came with no discernable zucchini in it, I finally complained. Here's the clincher: the waitress got the maitre d' who insisted that the dish had never contained zucchini. Sticking to my guns, I referred to the menu and was offered a new dish, which I refused, but which was delivered anyway.
Jeez! This is just the sort of interaction that ruins my dinner.
All was not lost, though. I'd be dishonest if I said the dinner was a total bust. Fortunately, the swordfish was as delicious and perfectly cooked as any I have had. If I ever return to this place (unlikely), I will arrive at lunch, sit outside, order a beer and a slab of grilled fish, and leave it at that.
Man : I can't understand how a poet like you can eat that stuff.
T. S. Eliot: Ah, but you're not a poet.